What’s it really like to be a medium? Do I see spirits everywhere? How do I know I’m not connecting with a “bad spirit”? And can your loved ones answer every question you bring to a reading?

In this highly requested episode of Spirit Speakeasy, I’m tackling the most common (and sometimes surprising!) questions I receive as a working psychic medium. Whether you’re curious about how mediumship works, seeking answers about connecting with loved ones, or wondering what it means to engage with the spirit world, this episode has something for you.

You’ll hear:

•  What it’s like to navigate daily life as a medium (no, I’m not seeing spirits 24/7!)
•  How readings in public (or even on TV) really happen—and why they’re rare
•  Why the spirit world doesn’t have “bad spirits” sneaking through
•  If your loved ones answer specific questions during readings—and why some answers aren’t guaranteed
•  What happens when we cross over and reconnect with loved ones, including those we’ve never met

Plus, I’ll share personal stories about surprising readings that happened in the most unexpected places (like rideshares and Apple Stores) and dive into the heart of mediumship: connection, trust, and healing.

If you’ve ever wondered what happens during a mediumship session—or beyond—this episode is packed with eye-opening insights, heartfelt stories, and answers you’ve been waiting for.

🎙️ Got a question for the next Ask a Medium episode? Call me at 305-928-LOVE or email me at [email protected] to submit your question!

Episode Transcript:

hey, beautiful soul, welcome to spirit speakeasy. I'm Joy Giovanni, joyful medium. I'm a working psychic medium, energy healer and spiritual gifts mentor. This podcast is like a seat at the table in a secret club, but with mediums, mystics and the spiritual luminaries of our time. So come behind the velvet ropes with me and see inside my world as I chat insider style with profoundly gifted souls, we go deep, share juicy stories, laugh a lot, and it wouldn't be a speakeasy without great insider secrets and tips. You might even learn that you have some gifts of your own. So step inside the spirit speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul. Welcome back, or welcome in for another episode of spirit speakeasy. This is one of the most highly requested episodes that I get. This is Ask a medium anything part four. We've done three of these in the past, and today, I am going to be answering the most common questions I've recently received from all of you and clients, etc. And I'm going to go down a quick list of what these questions are, just so you know what you're in for in this episode. And then I will dive into them one by one. The questions we're going to answer in this ask a medium episode is, do you just see dead people anywhere you go? Is it overwhelming in real life to be a medium? Do you ever give readings in public like on TV? What if I have a list of questions I want my loved one to answer in my reading? How do you know you're not connecting with a bad spirit? Will I see my loved one again when I die, or even loved ones I never got to meet. So we're going to be answering all of these questions, and probably more, because I didn't really make tons of notes, I just want to kind of answer them on the fly. And I'm sure more things will come up as a result of these questions. But let's start right at the top with Question one, do you see dead people everywhere you go? Is it overwhelming in real life to be a medium? I will say I don't feel like it's more overwhelming to be a medium than to be like just a generally energetic, sensitive person. And because I have trained as a medium and I work as a medium, I really am able to manage my energy so that it's less overwhelming. I guess I don't. The way the question is phrased is funny, do you see dead people all the time, the way my mediumship works? I don't see the people. They don't have a physical body anymore. I don't see a physical representation of them. I more sense them, and then move my awareness to connect with them, and they share details with me through sometimes quick flashes of mental pictures, through the emotions. Sometimes I will just know bits of details. We call that claircognizance, so I don't just experience crossed over loved ones, dead people. I hate that way of saying it, it's pretty irreverent, but I don't see crossed over people everywhere I go. I don't see them at all, but I don't experience them everywhere I go. I really experience them when I'm working as a general rule, I sometimes, in meditation, will become aware of a specific person. Usually it's someone I know. I once in a while in in, well, in meditation, I am sometimes becoming aware of the spirit world as a world, so kind of the spirit world in general, rather than like specific individuals. But what I'm out and about I'm really focused on, typically, whatever I'm doing, my human life, the the world, I kind of have to focus on what's happening around me anyway, just to be present and to navigate the world. So I don't think it's any more difficult or challenging or overwhelming in real life to be a medium than it is to just be an energetically sensitive person. And also, I'm not reading people everywhere I go, like mediumship and psychic work for me, or they're just so intertwined and so tied together. So when I'm at a checkout at a store, I'm not like reading that person's energy. I might become aware of things like, Oh, I feel like they're having a really hard day, or light things that are right on top, but I'm not blending my energy into their space to discern or to know information about them. It's just not it's just not appropriate, to be quite honest, and it's not how I work. I once in a while will become aware of a spirit person. I'm going to save that for the next question. But I don't just generally see and become aware of spirit people everywhere I go. It does happen once in a blue moon, but not as a general rule. And mediums that have trained we can this is not the right way. I'm going to say it again, the language we can contain our focus, meaning we don't have to let our mind wander to the spirit world. We don't have to let our awareness wander to the spirit world. It can sometimes happen if we are just kind of wandering in our. Emotions and not really paying attention if we're overwhelmed. Sometimes we can become aware of spirit. It can happen from time to time, but as a general rule, I'm not aware of things going on in someone's life. Once in a while I might be I'm not aware of their spirit people. I sometimes I'm aware of my own spirit people. When I'm out and about, I might see a sign from a loved one of my own, or just be aware of them, but I'm usually not aware of other people's loved ones as I move just throughout the world. This next question is, do you ever give readings in public, like on TV? As a general rule, no, but just like all rules, there are exceptions. It's typically, it's, I mean, not typically. It's not my intention when I go out in the world, like I was saying, to give readings. It's just for several reasons. One is, you can really ruin someone's day if they're not available to to for like they're not ready for that, right? It's part of why someone's soul kind of calls them or pulls them or nudges them to get a reading when they're ready, when they can best receive the information. You can really just put someone in a bad emotional state by bringing up someone that maybe they're not ready to hear from. We don't at the top. You know, when we first kind of move our awareness to spirit and meet a spirit person, typically, we don't know the depth of the relationship. So this might be a very triggering relationship. This might be a challenge relationship. They might have a lot of trauma from that relationship, or have unhealed it. The spirit person is probably showing up to to heal it, and of course, they care. But as the medium, as the person who does the communicating, we have to have some boundaries just to just because that's just not nice, right? It's not nice to just go around, uh, blowing up people's day at their job or or, you know, when they're at the grocery store next to you, or whatever it is. I just don't think it's appropriate. It's part of my training that we're kind of taught that that's a real No, however, that being said, there are exceptions to every rule. And I'm thinking of this has only happened to me. I mean, a handful of times in the entire time that I've been a medium. I'd say it's probably less than once a year even, that I will give a reading to someone in public in the world. I can give you two examples of when this has happened one that was maybe a few years ago, I was in a ride share taking it to go meet someone for a dinner that I had to go to, and we're driving in the car, and this young man is driving, and I was just so aware of his dad next to me in the car. And this is how I do it. As a medium, everyone has obviously free will and can do whatever, however they do it. But for me, I became aware of the spirit person. Typically, I can, can manage my awareness, so I'm not aware of them, but I just was so aware of this gentleman. And in my mind, I kind of sent the thought to this gentleman in the spirit world. Hey, if, if you want me to communicate or help you communicate with this young man who's driving, I need him to mention you. I need him to bring it up. I don't know how you're going to do it, but you got to get him to to bring it up. And, you know, we were chatting, and he asked me, What did I do? And I said, I'm a medium. And and then he said, Oh, I recently lost my dad. I'm having a really hard time. And I was like, okay, so I asked him, which is the nice thing to do? I said, you know, I'm, I'm, I don't normally do this. This is very out of the ordinary for me, but I am very aware of your dad. And since you brought it up, do you want to hear a little bit from him? You can totally say no, because he it that might have just not been the right time for him. So it's good to ask right consent. So he said, Yeah, I would really love that, actually. And I blended my energy with his dad. I was aware of the circumstances around the dad's passing, he had an illness that was managed for a time. I won't give you the all of the specifics, just to respect this person's privacy, but I'll give you some of the specifics. So I was aware of the specifics around his condition and his passing, but I was also aware that this young man who was driving my rideshare
was not fully estranged from his dad, like they were talking, but the dad and he had been just having a tough time, and this young man had been kind of going down, not the most ideal path that as a parent that you want your kid to go down. He was just making some bad choices and going in a direction in life that wasn't great. And his dad was very upset, and I was aware that he did get to see his dad before his passing, and I was aware that he had made a promise to his dad, and his dad was making me aware that he was very proud of him, that he was really after his dad's passing, trying to make good on this promise. And you. Move his life in a better direction. And he said, Yeah, that's true. Actually. That's why I'm driving this ride share, even because I'm trying to get money to go back to school. And I, you know, he shared a couple things. He exited these not good, very not good things that he was doing and participating in and and had really been trying to get his life together like he had promised his dad. And then I was aware of a few more details from his dad, something that he had of his dad that I couldn't see. Actually, I can tell you this. I said, you know your dad is indicating that you have a card with his photo and with a little something about him, a little quote or prayer or something. You keep it with you. And he's like, yeah, actually, it's right here. And he pulled it out from, I don't even know where in the front seat, but he pulled it out, and he said, it's right here. And then I said, I keep He keeps showing me his thumb, and I don't understand what this is. I just, you know, I wasn't a full reading, so I wasn't maybe understanding it correctly. And he said, Oh, I have this. It was aware of a chain that he had with his dad's like, name on it, and he said, Yeah, the thumbprints on the back of this. And so it was really validating. And that was maybe just like a five or 10 minute, quick little communication from his dad, but just letting him know his dad's safe. He's not upset with him. He's very proud of him. He wants the best for him. And that young man was very grateful and happy, and I just like, I hope I didn't like, mess you up for the rest of your driving shift. And he was like, no, actually, that was really relieving. And I really am doubly inspired to, like, stay on this path. So that was a positive example. I have another positive example that I can give you. There was another time recently that shout out to
ubiquitous Tara.
We were at an Apple store I just don't love I mean, most of us don't love them all, especially crowded season, and this was right before the holidays. It was super crowded. I needed to make sure I got a new phone, because mine was just not being amazing. And I wanted to do it, you know, before the end of the year. So she went there with me, and we had this wonderful rep that was helping us. And it was pretty chaotic in that store, which I feel like it often is. And for some reason, I just kept becoming aware of this. Again, it was a young man. This young man's it felt like it was a woman. She was incredibly strong, and it felt like either a grandma that raised Him or maybe an older mom. And again, I was aware of her a few different times throughout I was at the store for a couple hours. If you've ever bought a phone or a laptop at the Apple Store, you know you're going to be there a couple hours when it's crowded. And I was there a long time. So I was aware of her. And again, I kind of in my thoughts. Said to her, thank you so much for letting me be aware of you. I don't normally work this way. If you, if I need to communicate with this young man on your behalf, he needs to bring it up. He needs to he needs to bring you up somehow. That's kind of my, I guess my go to and so we're working together, working together. And as part of it, I had to give my email, and they it's joyful medium, as you guys know, at joyful medium.com and they said, Oh, joyful media. And I said, no medium. And he said, like, Oh, what is that? And I said, Well, essentially, I talked to people that have crossed over and communicate with them and give readings. And he was like, I'm so interested in that. And I just was like, Okay, well, we are busy. And kept still being aware of this woman. And he said, like, do you ever, like, just become aware of people? And he's like, I have someone that I really want to know. I really would want to hear from. And and I was like, Well, typically, no, but you do have an incredibly strong woman around you right now that I feel like, helps to raise you, and she has so much love for you, and is a big personality and really loves you a lot. And I was gonna leave it at that. And then he said, Oh yeah, that's my grandma, so and so, and I have this memorial tattoo for her, and, like, shows me the tattoo. So then, of course, I was like, Okay, well, he really opened up. And I said, you know, since I am aware of her, Would you like to hear a couple things? Because he was like, first, he's like, I don't know if I'm kind of scared of that. And I was, you know, just like we always talk about, I was like, it's never anything scary. It's typically just them letting you know they love you and they're around and and then that's when the whole thing happened, where I said, Actually, you have a woman around you, because he was curious. So then he said, Yeah, I would love to hear a few things. But meanwhile, it's a busy store, and his manager keeps coming up. And so it was a little bit choppy, but it was his grandma, and I brought through some lovely detail from her, where, you know, where she where they had all lived, and then where she was from, how she passed, I was aware that he wasn't able to say goodbye to her in the way that he wanted, and that there was a lot of division in the family. And so we touched into that. And then the grandma helped to bring forward, or make me aware of a young man on the other side that had passed suddenly and tragically. And I. They had indicated that this was going to be hard for this young man at the Apple Store to hear about. And so I said, I just want to say something to you, and I'm not going to go deep into it, but I am aware of a young man like I said, that passes suddenly and tragically, that is either your best friend or a cousin that you're very, very close with. You know him, kind of in your younger years, high school and early early adulthood. And I said, Do you understand this? This young man on the other side? And I could see his face was like, this was the emotional one for him, right? And so probably this was the need. This probably was who he needed to know was okay. And I he was like, I do know who that is. That's my best friend. And I said, Okay, I'm not going to super go into it, because I'm aware it's a very difficult situation. I'm just going to give you a little bit from him. The friend, had mentioned this really lovely photograph of the two of them that he said, This young man that I was working with at the store, had he kind of described the photo a little bit, or showed me a quick flash of what it might look like? And I knew, you know where he had it, and I said, He wants you to think of those days and think of him like that. I was aware that his life was taken from him as part of this complication, but he wanted his friend to know that he was okay, that he was safe and at peace. And actually, his grandma loved this young man quite a bit. So we had kind of a laugh about that. So those are my couple examples of how it can happen. But I would say it's the exception, not like the typical way it is. You could imagine that someone coming up to you. First of all, how do you even know that a medium that's going to approach you in public is on the level you don't, and a lot of times, I can't tell you how many clients I have come in that says, Oh, the girl that does my hair said she's psychic and she told me this. Or the person that does my nails says they're psychic and told me this. And usually it's these really terrifying or unsettling bits about their life, and if the person's not ready for it, or if you're not trained for it, or if they're just in, like at their job, or maybe they're not ready for that communication, it can just be a mess. So typically, no, I don't give readings in public, like on TV. And the other thing is, while I think you guys have probably heard me say this before, I think there's a wonderful place for those TV shows, and that mediumship is coming more, a little more mainstream. I think that's wonderful in a lot of ways. The thing that a lot of people don't think through, particularly with the shows where they're doing readings on the show, that that scenario, whatever that person steps into, is already miked. It's already lit. There's already been a crew in there preparing everything, moving things, to get the lighting right so they know this reading
is gonna happen.
Yeah, even if it looks like on the show that this person is just getting into this scenario with this other person who then starts spontaneously reading them. They know, they've signed waivers, they like, there's all kinds of things that happen. It's not as spontaneous as it looks. But I'm not saying the mediumship is not real, because I think it is in a lot of those cases. And I actually, actually have gotten to meet or witness or know, a couple of a few of the famous mediums. So they're real mediums. It's just the scenario that they're setting up for TV is not necessarily like a genuine scenario. It doesn't happen the way it looks like it's happening, and there's a lot of editing that happens, but a crew is coming in and lighting, and, like I said, waivers are signed, and all kinds of things are happening. So it's not usual for all the mediums that I know. It's not usual for us to just spring into spontaneous readings wherever we go, but it can happen, and my solution for it really is to kind of tell the spirit person. Because I don't know if you've heard me say this, but actually I believe I work for the spirit world, not necessarily my clients in this world, even though, of course, I honor and respect them, my true like who I work for is the spirit side. So I will lovingly say to them, like they need to give me the green light, or bring you up in some way, or ask or inquire, or they need to give some very clear indication that this is okay. Can you, can you influence that? And they can, usually, if that person is truly open, available, it's okay, right? Yeah, because we don't want to cause, we don't want to do any harm, right? That's one of the core, I don't know, foundational things we need to agree to as mediums or spiritual workers, like do no harm, right? So that is my answer to, do I see loved ones everywhere I go? Is it overwhelming? And do I give readings in public? The next question is, what? Oh, what if I. A list of questions that I want my loved one to answer in my reading. Most of you guys know I do one on one readings, either in person in my office in San Diego, or online via zoom. I also do group readings, which sometimes are like a family group or a group of friends that know each other, and sometimes are a more public group, where people are just buying tickets and it's a bunch of people that don't necessarily know each other. So readings can happen a lot of ways. When you're signing up for them and this person's wanting to know, if I come in for a session, what if I have, like, this list of questions I want the loved one to answer in my reading? Um, what I can tell you is that I think it's human nature to have certain things we want to know or would like to hear about. I don't think we could even help ourselves from like mentally thinking about it, or even mentally kind of making a list. But what I will say is it's much more effective to go into the reading just open hearted and open minded, letting the spirit person, whether it's a specific loved one or a group of your loved ones communicate what they know you need to hear or what needs to be lifted off your heart, or what they need to communicate or clear up. So the way I like to do it is I normally when I meet my client, whether they're in person or online, I tell them a little bit about how I work, what to expect for the session, and then I let them know, if they have questions, it's okay. Just kind of hang on to them. Let me work for a little bit. Let's see what comes organically out of the communication out of the session. And then if they if they still have questions at the end, we can either take a look at them, 99% of the time, the spirit person does answer most, if not all, of the questions, but just depending on what the question is like, I've had people a lot of times the questions are like, are they at peace? Are they safe? Do they know about X, Y, Z? It's part of why I don't like to know the questions ahead of time, because then my mind wants to search for the answers. And a lot of times the communication and the things that they're sharing or bringing up in the reading, I don't know how they relate to the question, or I won't even know that questions are being answered as part of what they're communicating, especially if it's a do they know how this affected me? Do they know that I had a baby? Do they know, you know, depending what the questions are, where it doesn't work, typically is either like, it's really hard for me to understand data points as far as like, I'll give you a good example. On more than one occasion, I've had different people come in wanting to know like the password to a phone or a code to a banking thing, a deposit box or a banking online, whatever, I there's probably no way for me to get that information. Do you know what I mean someone's pass code to their phone or something that's written in like a coded way, and can I tell them what that means? It doesn't really work like that. It's not mediumship. Is not like phone a friend, where I have them on the phone talking to me, saying into my human ear. No, the password is banana sandwiches, whatever it is, they really are impressing upon me through the emotions. Sometimes I'll get quick flashes of pictures, sometimes I'll have mental words or even songs, but it's not them just standing next to me talking in my ear. I wish it was just doesn't work that way, and then the whole emotional part would be missing anyway. So I'm really working with them the whole time to understand the nuanced parts of the communication. So a lot of questions that you might have naturally get answered as part of the communication. So if it's something that's very like a password or a, yeah, a phone number of someone like, I'm probably not going to probably that's not going to come about. The other thing that that often is not like answered as part of a reading, is if it's something that really just, you know, I think the best way I can say it is there's things that we maybe need to know, right? Like it's a burden on our heart or our soul. Are they safe? Are they okay? Did they go to a bad place? Are they? Do they know who they are? Did they did they do they have their memory now, if they didn't when they were here? There are some things that we really it's heavy on our heart to need to know, and then there are other things that we might want to know, but from their perspective, or from our soul's perspective, we don't need to know, we just want to know. So they won't necessarily answer everything, but if it's something that we truly need, they will often answer it just as a natural part of the communications. So I think it depends on you as the individual. If you can come into a reading without a list and just allow the experience, trust that your loved ones will communicate what they need to communicate, or what you what the true need is. But if you're someone who gets really anxious and this list is happening and you're it's draining all of your mental energy. Anyway, write it down. Most mediums probably won't want to see it. I will often if they say they have a list, and I tell them, Okay, hang on to it. Let's work a little bit and see I just recently in a small group reading of a family. I didn't I think that maybe the gal did say she had a list, and I kind of said, like, okay, just hang on to it and we'll look at it later. And then I had asked, you know, were there items on the list that, do we address everything? And she's looking at it, and she said, yeah, actually, in one way or another, we did address all of these,
all of these items. So
yeah, often, most of the questions that you might put on a list get answered as a natural part of the communication. There is a bit of a need to know versus want to know. And it's probably not going to be details, like, where did you hide the fill in the blank, or what is the password or code to fill in the blank those I mean, it'd be miraculous if we could get it, but that's typically not the type of information that they are using this mystical experience and connection of souls to bring through usually has a weightier meaning than that. So the next question I've been asked this actually in interviews recently, in the last couple years, kind of more than I would really expect. And the question is, how do you know you're not connecting with a quote, unquote bad spirit? It's not just a bad question, because, trust me, when I first came to this work, or even before I, like, understood this work, or took part in it at all the way I would say it is, like, I wouldn't allow even like TV shows about witchcraft that are very mainstream on mainstream networks or cartoons. I wouldn't allow, allow those kind of shows in my house. And I would say, I don't want to open doors. I don't understand. And what I meant was I don't know if things are bad or not bad. So what I now understand is that one, there aren't bad spirits that are are with our loved ones. It's that we just return to our soul, self, and the truth of our soul is love and is compassion and is, you know, the highest vibrational energy, not the challenged behaviors or personalities or struggle that we work through on this side, our true soul self really is the more evolved version of us. So even someone that was challenged on this side, for example, once they cross over and they're communicating that those challenges have at least largely been healed, worked through, processed, understood, and there's a personal growth that happens as part of the transition, usually. So that's one two. We all have guides as mediums, even if we don't, depending To what degree we work consciously with them, you know, we can work very consciously and intentionally with them. They can kind of work in the background, but our guides are assisting even in the background all the time. So if they're hypothetically, even though I don't at this point, I don't believe that there's bad spirits, just for the record, hypothetically, if there was a bad spirit that wanted to communicate right, disguised as a person, your guide would know and wouldn't allow it. I don't think that they can, like, disguise themselves over there like that, because it's not a physical form. And when I hear these fear based things, I know that they're through this filter of, well, fear and human understanding, because when we're non physical by definition, we're not in a physical form. So it's not like we could disguise ourselves as another physical form. We don't have a physical form. Does that make sense? So it's not like the boogeyman is coming to your guide and slipping past because they're wearing the suit of an angel. You know what I mean? It just doesn't work like that. I believe we're recognized on the other side by our unique, energetic vibration, I think, sort of like the idea of a fingerprint in a very simplified way. I think we all, each of our souls, has a unique energetic vibration, signature vibration, and I think that's more how we recognize each other at this point in my work. Anyway, this is what I believe, not necessarily, like we do here by by physical attributes, or like we see someone and recognize them, or if we are uncited, if we smell someone or know someone and recognize them, right? I think it's different over there, so I don't think there's these like bad spirits slipping through for communication. And the other thing is the intention behind mediumistic community. Education, good mediumship. Let's just call it is to hold in love and respect and with a level of reverence, right? Respect. It's a mystical experience. It's not, it's not the same as just like rotating your tires or something like we are, we are raising the energy of our soul, blending our soul with the soul of someone who is discarnate, meaning out of a body, and they are slowing their vibration to blend souls with us and to create this communication, which, from my side, doesn't always feel super easy. I'm working the whole time with them. So why would this beautiful, mystical experience be wasted on something that was trickery or that was bad? The intention of good mediumship is always for healing, for growth, for someone to get a little bit of clarity or understanding or to get what they need so that they can somehow release themselves from things that are burdening them or holding them back, or they can have more clarity in a positive way. The intention is always the highest and greatest need of the soul, both the soul that is my human client in a body sitting on the screen or in my office, and my client who is the discarnate soul who is on the spirit side. So the intention is the highest and greatest good and the highest need of both souls. There's no room for anything bad, even if hypothetically, you could make the argument that something bad, like an evil spirit, did exist, they're not communicating in mediumship in this way. And there's guides, and there's our soul, and there's all of our other loved ones, and I think, and again, no shade on this question, because it's a good question. It's definitely a question I've had in my journey, for sure, but it really minimizes the intelligence and the power and love behind what's actually happening in a mediumistic communication. We have our own loved ones around us all the time, the ones that we knew, and the layers of ancestors that we didn't know. And we've talked about ancestors here before, and what that means. It can mean a relational like related to you ancestor, or it can be an ancestor in whatever work you do. If you're a biochemist, you have a lineage, an ancestry, of all the other biochemists that ever came before you, for example. So we have a lot of love for us on the other side that's not going to just allow something from that side to throw us a ride. Chaos happens in this world, in our life all the time, and I think that's where all of that yucky energy and quote, unquote bad energy lives is kind of in our world that we experience now. I don't think it's on the other side, but just knowing that really all of this is a mystical experience that only happens through the love that we share, through the the energy and the purity of the essence of our souls and the intelligence of our souls. They have to know who they are, who you are, what time your appointment is, what you need to hear, the connection you have with them. Because actually, if I was on the other side right now, and I took 10 different people who knew me in this world, most of them each would probably identify me a different way. I'm a different person to each of these people. I might be a mom to one. I might be a friend to the other. I might be a mentor to the other. So they need to know how to best identify themselves to you based on shared memories or details about themselves, details about your life. There's a lot happening, and just to reduce it to somehow a bad spirit being able to swoop in, it's not it's just not fair, I think, to all of the effort and energy that goes into the spirit world. They have to learn to communicate with Mediums too, because we're all a little different, we have to learn to communicate with them. So there's a lot of heart and soul that goes into this. And I just in my work, I've never met a bad spirit. I've met people that have challenges in their lives, but that doesn't make them bad, right? It just makes them they had a challenge in their life. So I hope that I know there's a quite a tangent, but I hope that answers that. How do I know I'm not connecting with a bad spirit all of those ways? There's a lot of ways. And the final question for this session of Ask a medium anything, will I see my loved one again when I die, or loved ones I never got to meet for my understanding, yes, absolutely, I believe we're greeted and reunited with all of those that we've known and loved that are on the other side and the ancestors again, that maybe we didn't get the opportunity to meet. I sometimes have. I. Ancestor of a client in my office or on my zoom from that is like a great grandparent, for example. Sometimes they were blessed to get to know this person a little bit in their life, even if it was like when they were a kid. Sometimes they didn't get to know that person, and that person passed away before they were born. But
then that person who's coming, if it's like a great grandparent on the other side, for example, they're sharing details about themselves and often things going on in this client's life because they care about you. They care about what's going on to you. They're around you right now, even if you didn't know them physically on this side, in this lifetime, it doesn't mean your soul doesn't know them from the other side. I think we also get to hang out a little bit with family members on the other side before we come in, so before we incarnate into this life as as a baby. I think we're partially, at least some of the time with other family members over there. So I think we know them before even I've had often a grandparent who's crossed over and they're, well, it'd probably be like a parent and their kid is in my office, but it's an adult kid who has their own kids, and that person saying, like, Yes, I know my grandbaby. Where else would I be than hanging out with them? I spent time with them over here before they came in, and I know they're like this, and they're like this, and their personalities like this and and I've even had them say like, you know, sometimes they sit down at their little table to play Tea Party, and they're serving someone else and talking to someone else when they play Tea Party. And that's me. I sit, I sit with them. They, they actually are aware of me in their own way. So, yeah, they spend time with us now. So we, I believe, certainly get to meet them on the other side, and we definitely get to be reunited with our loved ones. I think that they kind of wait for us. I don't think people are reincarnating before we get to be reunited with them. I think they, they want to see us just as much as we want to see them. So we get to to be reunited. We get to understand really, either what the challenges were in our relationship or the strengths. And the other thing to to know is, however many years you've been on this earth, however old you are. We have memories that we hang on to right things that we can recall right now, maybe our third grade teacher, or what, you know, what music instrument we played in middle school, or there's memories that we have, but then there's 1000s and 1000s of memories that we've completely forgotten that our soul still contains. You know, often we talk about it as the unconscious, right? But our soul still contains all of those memories, and when we cross over, we get to have all the memories all at once. Our human brain couldn't possibly manage to hold on to every single memory we've had in our lifespan, in our brain all at once. Right? Now, like I can't remember what I wore every day of sixth grade. Do you know what I mean? My soul knows. So when we cross over, we really get to have the totality of our memories, and that includes lots of wonderful people, lots of other souls. Sometimes those souls show up as friends, sometimes they show up as challengers, to help move us in a direction or help us understand something in life, even the people we had challenges with, I think we come to clarity and understanding and have some sort of healing on the other side. I think a lot happens as part of this experience on this side, and I think a lot happens as we transition to the other side. So I know that really, all of the love and compassion that we receive when we cross over is all about our healing and understanding and the growth and expansion of our own soul. I think it's part of the reason we come here to this side, for this experience. There are emotions that when we understand that we're all connected, that we're not separate, we come into these physical bodies to experience separation, the illusion of separation, to feel what it feels like to be separate, to feel what it feels like to assume that we're disconnected when we're on the other side, when we return to spirit, to our true soul selves. None of that illusion exists. So it's hard to feel sad when you know that there's you know the truth is, there's no sadness over there. It's hard to feel alone when you know that you're connected to the most divine love at all times and you're never separate. There is no separation. It's only in coming here that we can have that experience of separation, of contrast, of discomfort. So we can grow and expand and bump up against things and discover things that our soul self actually knows we find our. Again to a degree. So in that way, I think understanding that we're returning to love, we're returning eventually home, but that we've come here for a reason to have this experience, even if we don't understand in our lifetime, why, why we've come why we needed these experiences. I believe that we really do get clarity on that when we cross over and get to meet with all of our loved ones on the other side. And I actually think we get to meet with kind of whoever we eventually want. I think we get to meet with mentors and ascended masters and teachers, even teachers we didn't know. There are books that I have read of people who have long crossed over that I think I'll get to meet when I'm over there, and get to understand their wisdom and get to share in the energy of their soul in a different way. So I think we're much more connected than we realize, and I think it's our illusion of separation and our humanness that tries to reduce everything to these very simple little boxes, and I don't think it's quite like that on the other side. So I hope that you have enjoyed this episode. I hope that you got some questions answered. If you have other questions, feel free to send them in. I try to sprinkle these ask a medium episodes and throughout the year. So you can either call in 305928,
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it's not it. It's not a toll free number. So carry your rate supply, I guess how to say it. But you can just leave a quick message if you have a question that you want to ask a medium, or you can email it to admin at joyful medium.com, and of course, I'll be compiling another one of these question and answer sessions. But maybe just maybe, some of these answers have opened your mind just one inch wider, or have even created more questions for you, and can send you on this little quest of discovery yourself. Thanks for being here with me. I always enjoy getting to talk about the spirit world and mediumship, and I can't tell you how grateful I am to be able to do this work as a medium, to be able to have clients that trust me to communicate with the souls of their loved ones on the other side, and to have souls of loved ones on the other side that trust me to work with their loved ones here on this side, I'm ever grateful to be getting to do this work. And if you've ever been curious about mediumship readings, I still do readings. You can check out my website, joyful medium.com in the section marked work with me, or just peruse all over the website and get lots of questions answered. So thanks for being here and I will see you very soon. Big hugs. Lots of love. Bye for now. From inside, Spirit Speakeasy.